Join us in meeting+welcoming G3S friends from across the country when they will be in San Francisco for the National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA)’s 2018 National Conference the weekend of July 27-29! Familiar and new faces are all welcome – please bring your friends, too!
When: Sunday, July 29 afternoon after 3 PM (exact time TBD) Where: SF around Chinatown/FiDi/Union Square/SoMa (exact location TBD)
KATHY: On the 12th floor, we walk into a place called “Tongzhi Hotline.” The “Hotline” is an inclusive LGBTQ center that runs all kinds of programs for the queer community in Taipei. And it’s literally in an apartment. There are posters of different queer Asian movies on the wall and we sit down in the cozy living room. The center runs a hotline for people who have come out. And there’s also a hotline for their parents.
KATHY: Andrew and I meet Guo Mama. Guo is her last name. And Mama means mom. Guo Mama has been volunteering at the Hotline for 14 years. She says that when her kid was first coming out, she and her husband had trouble finding information.
ANDREW: What makes it hard for people in Taiwan?
GUO MAMA: You know, some parents, for Chinese parents, we still believe that children are our property. So we will do all the decisions for them, we buy houses for them, we protect them – over protect sometimes. And we have the control freak hands, whatever, or the helicopter parents all over. We are probably not like that. But still, the society, the pressure are different, because they are judging the parents first: How come your kids are like that?
KATHY: How do you think a kid can come out to their parents? Like what is the easiest way to do that so they understand?
GUO MAMA: Five steps.
ANDREW: Oh wow, what are they? Number one.
GUO MAMA: Write a letter. First, when was the first time you realize you were different? Really early, as early as possible. So you force the parents to know, this is not the outsiders, this is not what school you’re in or the friends you’re dealing with, that make the problem, become the problem. It started really, really early in their lives.
GUO MAMA: And second, when you confirmed you were really different. You have certain steps yourself, you know. You check, you try different ways, and you blame the classmates, or the movies, or everything. Your kids will do that a lot alone. But at certain point you confirmed, like you’re desperate, say [MANDARIN] I’m beyond saving. [ENGLISH] No one can help me. I’m definitely that kind of person. There’s a date and year – tell your parents then.
GUO MAMA: The third, it’s like the history of your LGBT life. Like what happened, you tried the opposite sex, you have a boyfriend, girlfriend, many things. You have went to the doctors, you went to the hotline, and things like that, like a history. Also telling the parents there’s no way you can change now.
GUO MAMA: Fourth is your now, what happens now. You’re 28 or 35. You have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And what you’re really seeing yourself. You have already adjust to your orientation. And tell your parents, I’m really happy and have a partner and what I’m gonna do.
GUO MAMA: And the fifth, most important, what’s my futures look like. I want to get married. I want to have cats, dogs, or babies. Everything.
GUO MAMA: Plants. Live plants. It is really important. So your parents would say, Oh my kids were so alone, he would die alone. They have very scary pictures in their minds. You have to tell them, No, I have my own plans for my future. Write a letter. If you’re really lazy, just write five sentences, and you can always fill in later!
GUO MAMA: And your parents will read it probably a hundred times. They really want to know what is going on.
“People Like Us” is a Singaporean web series following the lives of four gay men in Singapore, the sexual escapades and relationships that unfold between them, and critical health issues:
So, it’s Friday night, possibly the most important day on the #gayagenda. Rai, Joel, Ridzwan & Issac are prepping themselves before heading out. Rai, after bookout, is trying to score a date with Joel, while Joel is finishing up his routine at the Gym. Ridzwan is at a sauna, hunting for his next hookup and Issac settles in, and popped a Viagra. Four men. Lust, love, life. People Like Us.
Trang Tran is bringing LGBTQ Vietnamese people closer with their loved ones through traditional cuisine. In 2016, the advocate founded QTViet Cafe. With events like the Intergenerational Feast of Resistance, the Oakland-based, pop-up cafe is a gathering place for LGBTQ Vietnamese people, their families and friends to come together, enjoy a traditional meal and learn from one another.
“It’s our intention to connect with our grandparents or our loved ones that we know — our elders in the community — and they can be queer and LGBT-identified, or allies and supporters that we have been building with,” said Tran, who identifies as non-binary and uses they and them pronouns.
“Through food and through community events like the intergenerational feasts that we have, we cook with our elders and learn from them, learn the recipe and archive it so that we can have it and also pass it down to the next generation,” Tran explained.Tran said the cafe has helped traditional Vietnamese families better understand their LGBTQ-identified children, including Tran’s own family.
When she produces, Yaeji says she feels an intuitive pull towards house music, which she describes as “neither positive nor negative,” “emotional and nostalgic,” and “energetic.” “I’m always drawn to the same feelings,” she says. “I just end up there somehow every time. Some people say that my music sounds sad and lonely. I think that’s true — but that’s not necessarily something I want to show.” She pauses. “Maybe a part of me is trying to hide the darkness of all the times I’ve spent alone.”
There are more queer Asian techno punks and towering Asian drag queens in this room than I have ever seen. It’s 10 p.m. at the Bushwick club Elsewhere, and the Yaeji and Friends party is packed so tight it’s hard to move. […] “In a sense, my music career has been short compared to other people’s,” she continues. “So many talented people never got picked up by press, or haven’t gotten to play the perfect setting. Since I’m in a position now where I can provide a platform, I want to give it to people who really deserve it but didn’t get a chance or were marginalized. I really believe in them.”
A queer Asian zeitgeist seems to be brewing in Brooklyn nightlife, with the ascent of parties like Hot ‘N Spicy and Bubble_T and the activist crew Yellow Jackets Collective. Many of these parties explicitly prohibit culturally appropriative costumes and ask guests to check their “white nonsense” at the door. Yaeji’s Curry In No Hurry party is more subtle but no less political — the rich smell of curry wafting through a dancefloor is a shakeup of club norms that speaks to any person of color who has ever been teased for bringing “smelly” food to school.
Follower Fridays is a series of profiles highlighting members of Gaysian
Third Space to showcase the diversity of gaysians in the Community.
This week’s featured member is @ohnoitsian.
Who are you?
My name is Gian Carlo. I am thirty years old of age. I was born and raised in the Philippines, moved here in the United States at the age of fourteen. I’m an only child, but my cousins are always there for me since we were kids. I value loyalty a lot, hence, I am still friends with my best friends since high school. I am not a perfect individual, but I strive to be better everyday. I speak Tagalog, Cebuano aka Visaya and English 😄
Where are you from?
I am originally from Cebu, Philippines. Currently living in Los Angeles area, California.
What do you do?
I work full-time as an Emergency Department Registered Nurse. I work 12-hours night shift, therefore, you won’t see me a lot during the day. On my days off, I am a content creator. I create random videos online, whether it’s a comedy skit, video blog, reaction videos or song covers. I enjoy hang outs at Disneyland (AP Holder) with friends. Lately, I try to go to the park and just take photos.
What are you passionate about?
Ever since I was a kid, I’ve always pictured myself being a nurse, however, I did not enjoy the profession in my first few years of working. I thought it was stressful and draining. I was wrong. My challenges as a new nurse had to be experience in order to shape me to become the nurse that I am today. Don’t get me wrong, after six years of being in this profession, there’s still a lot more I don’t know about my job, however, I can not picture myself not being a nurse. I feel like this is the only job I am capable of doing. Through the years, I’ve learned how rewarding and satisfying my job is, and this is what I am passionate about.
I love music and I’ve always been in love with music since I was a kid. In my teenage years, I started composing songs and play them using my guitar. I am definitely passionate about music, as well, but there’s so much more I need to learn.
What is your dream job (real or fantasy)?
My dream job is to be a traveling nurse, however I suck at adjusting to new work places so I don’t know anymore. But, I’d love to do travel vlogging as a job.
If you could change the world with one idea, what would it be?
I found this question very difficult to answer. I have to be honest, this took a lot of thinking from me. Haha. If I could change the world with one idea, I think I’d automatically set every newborn child’s brain free from ignorance and racism; for them not to treat anyone else less than the other. By doing that, no parents, belief or religion can influence them.