Tinychat

gaysianthirdspace:

gaysianthirdspace:

In celebration of reaching 150 followers and 2016 G3S global domination meeting (aka surprise visit from Jeff and we talked about silly things), we will be having a tinychat session this Saturday (tomorrow) at 9pm EST. Hope to see you there!

– Fish

Just a reminder of our tinychat session tonight at 9pm EST!  Stay tuned for the link to the room.

Hope to see you there! @gregasaurus @ox-85 @ro-mantik @alostfish @letters-to-charles @quitepatrick @medicasian @thoughtsfromthewalkhome @titotito

Here’s the link to the tinychat room!

-Jeffrey

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Tinychat

gaysianthirdspace:

In celebration of reaching 150 followers and 2016 G3S global domination meeting (aka surprise visit from Jeff and we talked about silly things), we will be having a tinychat session this Saturday (tomorrow) at 9pm EST. Hope to see you there!

– Fish

Just a reminder of our tinychat session tonight at 9pm EST!  Stay tuned for the link to the room.

Hope to see you there! @gregasaurus @ox-85 @ro-mantik @alostfish @letters-to-charles @quitepatrick @medicasian @thoughtsfromthewalkhome @titotito

Class Differences in Child-Rearing Are on the Rise

ro-mantik:

Well-off families are ruled by calendars, with children enrolled in ballet, soccer and after-school programs, according to a new Pew Research Center survey. There are usually two parents, who spend a lot of time reading to children and worrying about their anxiety levels and hectic schedules.

In poor families, however, children tend to spend their time at home or with extended family, the survey found. They are more likely to grow up in neighborhoods that their parents say aren’t great for raising children, and their parents worry about them getting shot, beaten up or in trouble with the law.

Class Differences in Child-Rearing Are on the Rise

Follower Friday: ox-85

Follower Fridays is a series of profiles highlighting members of Gaysian Third Space to showcase the diversity of gaysians in the Community. This week’s featured member is @ox-85.

Who are you?

Second generation, Taiwanese American from California. Born, raised (and probably will die) in California. Currently pursuing my doctorate in education.

Where are you from?

California. Why would anyone willingly live anywhere else knowing how great California is?

What do you do?

I work full time in education and study education full time. Little time is left over for friends and family.

What are you passionate about?

Social Justice and Asian American empowerment & education. Being the best version of myself that I can be.

What is your dream job (real or fantasy)?

Honestly, probably a chef. I love to cook and I grew up in a restaurant & around food. I was a hella fat kid (still am on the inside).

If you could change the world with one idea, what would it be?

Empathy, compassion, and sharing stories is an amazing way to work through life’s toughest issues and destabilize problematic social issues.

Tinychat

In celebration of reaching 150 followers and 2016 G3S global domination meeting (aka surprise visit from Jeff and we talked about silly things), we will be having a tinychat session this Saturday (tomorrow) at 9pm EST. Hope to see you there!

– Fish

On Being Gay — Chapter I

letters-to-charles:

I’m wary of friendships and relationships with gay men due to past experiences and my own insecurities. I used to be much more naive about people and their intentions. I think this is mostly due to me being raised up in a small farming town where I grew up trusting everyone I met and partly due to my desire to believe everyone is innately kind.

My first steps into the gay world was a disaster. I hated home so much that I bought a one way ticket and flew out to Hawaii the morning after my high school graduation. I found a job and made friends quickly. Life was great and I didn’t even have to pay rent because one of my coworker offered to let me stay at his place. He was a gay white guy about 10 years older than me. He was the first person who I told I was gay and me being young and stupid I was just like “Wow! Thanks man! You’re the best.” I thought the gay community was so caring. 

Soon, though, things started to feel not right. I couldn’t explain at the time but my gut instinct was trying to tell me I needed to get out of the situation. He started to buy me gifts, paying for my meals every day, getting upset when I would hang out with other guys.

Then one night he came into my room with tickets to Maui and was upset when I said I didn’t want to go. He tried to kiss me and I was so repulsed but so shocked and scared that I literally couldn’t move. Eventually he left me alone.

The next day I told one of my other coworker who is also gay what happened. I guess he’s what you could call the stereotypical gay flamboyant guy, he was also Filipino god bless him. He was shocked, in retrospect probably about how dumb I was, because he thought that the white guy was my sugar daddy. I didn’t even know what the term “sugar daddy” meant and he had to explain to me.

Against my wishes he reported the situation to our boss who is also gay but in a glass closet. This is where things got messy because my boss and white coworker had bad blood which I was oblivious to as everything else. He forced me to file a sexual harassment suit against white guy mostly because he had always wanted a reason to fire the guy for personal reasons. I became a pawn in his personal vendetta.

I came out of the situation feeling used by all parties. I packed up, left Hawaii Kai and moved into Honolulu were I made ends meet for a bit before I ended up living with a Filipino family in Makaha.

University began and I flew out to Los Angeles for the first time. I would be thrown head first into not only the biggest city I’ve ever been in but also into one of the biggest and most vibrant gay community with all the positive and negative consequences that it entails.

And yes, I listened to Party in the USA as I landed.

It is very unfortunate that @letters-to-charles had such negative experiences in his first encounter with the gay community. However, I don’t believe he is alone. People’s first interactions with the community will often define his or her perceptions. We should work toward creating a more supportive and welcoming community for our peers. This is what I hope G3S will achieve. 

– Fish

Fuckboys

jsl009:

I’ve been talking to this guy for the past month or so. He’s a nerdy kind of cute, a med student, and really buff. 

We’ve been chatting on and off throughout the weeks. Towards the end of each week I’ve been asking what his plans are so we can meet up. He keeps saying he’s busy with school/work which I get. He can actually hold a conversation unlike most boys here, so I tolerate it. 

After a few times though I start to get suspicious. I casually mention that I wonder if we’re ever gonna meet. He said, “When you buff up.” He said something those lines before but I honestly thought he was joking. When he said it again this time, all I could think about was a big FUCK YOU! 

I will be damned if I let this little fuckboy or anyone else tell me I’m not good enough because of my body. I value my health and living an active lifestyle. If I’m gonna workout, it’s for my benefit and mine alone. 

I don’t think he realizes that I’ve been hitting the gym basically everyday for the past 2 weeks. Not quite where I want my body to be, but I’m happy with the progress I’ve made so far. 

I know I’m fucking awesome, and I’m going to give my time to the people that see it. *end rant*

Thanks to @jsl009 for sharing his experiences. You are really awesome! 

While it is understandable that everyone can be superficial at times, many people in the gay community put a great amount of emphasis on physical appearance. We had many discussions and posts about this in G3S, and this is another example of that. 

– Fish